The Perfect Esposa

In 25 years that my mom has been married to my dad, she has only acted as his wife for 10. Not because she divorced him or because she didn't care about him, but because my dad has always lived in the United States. I am proud to say that my mom is my role model, but I could never be a wife like her.

Growing up i saw a lot of women do everything for their husbands, wash their clothes, fix their dinners and almuerzos, do their bed, iron their clothes, wash their dishes, changed the tv channel when he couldn't find the remote.... i've seen it everywhere. When i was 13 i decided that that would not be my life, that if a man loved me he would understand and marry me even if i didn't make him fresh frijoles everyday.

3 boyfriends in my life told me that those were the duties that they would expect from me, so i knew that it would not last with them.

Finally I found him, the one. He lived in his own apartment after graduating from college and did his own laundry and cooked his own meals. Until one day, after we got engaged, he told me that he needed help doing laundry and chores around the house. I almost broke up with him that second, instead I said "Well, i don't do cooking, cleaning or laundry". He didn't say anything back.

Sometime before the wedding i started to ask myself, is there really a perfect wife?is there a woman who will be willing to leave her life, dreams and ambitions behind to please this guy who said to be his "other half". What is she like? how does she wake up everyday to cook, clean and wash? where does she get this motivation?

Before the wedding too, JJ and I came up with a little bit of our "Marriage Plan". How will things work out after we moved in together and we stared our own family. I said that if i had to chose between washing the dishes or drying i would pick washing, i could do some laundry, as long he would agree to fold. I would cook dinner if he clean out the table.

Of course none of it has worked at planned, i end up doing more work than what i signed up for. So that brings me back to another question. Why am I trying to be the perfect wife? or am i just trying to save myself more work? i know that JJ will come around to clean the table, wash the dishe and fold the laundry, why don't i wait?

It's starting to annoy me that we do everything the way he wants and i get nothing in return, if it doesn't change what will happen ?